The Public Private Place

Samuel goes frenzy on seeing a train, since childhood. He would always feel happy being  lost observing trains, their arrivals, departures and mostly helping people to choose correct train which would take them a little earlier to their destination. It is his peace and happiness. Though the little museum on platform number one in Bangalore City railway station is very tiny, he feels that knowledge it contains in form of photographs and little artifacts is very vast.

 Anoop always like spending time at metro art centre located in M G road. His legs will never stop him taking a step ahead towards that place. He rejoices every noisy, chaotic, peaceful  moments spent there listening to live bands, playing drums, watching plays, listening stories, observing paintings and photographs. He always tells that he couldn't think of anything except happiness when he is there.

Nandini, a bookworm feels Church Street near Brigade Road as Diagon alley. Books are her world and that street have a lot of them containing all the genres available in English literature. Her moment of happiness is to just be inside each shop as long as possible. She had to control for not buying too many books each week. That street is her place of joy.

Daniel cannot control himself being happy when he watches bright, smiling faces of kids walking proudly after finishing their day through the gates of Kendriya Vidyalaya. He is fortunate to work in a shift which starts during evening, allowing him to rejoice the time sipping tea at his balcony and watch future of nation marching out. He says listening to them yell brings calmness to his mind.

Food Street is Hari’s favourite place. Visiting Food Street at least once each month is a must in his calendar. His happiness lies in watching street food of all states in nation being prepared together at one place. Choosing an Item out of too many favourite foods is a tough task for him. It appears to him that street has a food festival running everyday!

Yasmeen feels that she is in a carnival whenever she is walking through market areas. It may be passing through avenue road to K.R market or a walk through Commercial Street. She spends countless moments observing flower vendors , watching flowers and feeling their fragrance in madivala market or Sampinge road.  Her mind floods with happiness when she strolls through annual events like kalekaya parishe and chitra sante.

Anand is a philatelist. His hobby drags him to the general post office very frequently. He is taken away by the majesty of the building and the beauty of little garden in front of it. One can finish watching a movie during time he spends there.

93% of people would definitely feel tired or hold their head spending time in places mentioned above. The honking locomotives, traffic passing by roads, cries of kids when they come out of school, noise of ladles hitting against frying pans and mayhem in a government offices are definitely not going to bring happiness. Shouts of vendors in market streets would bring joy in no way.

I was surprised when I heard about them. How can they find peace when they are surrounded by hundreds of people? Is it even possible? Are these people weird? , but something made me think and realize that I met remaining 7% who were happy, amidst chaos in most noisy places. I had a presumption that solitude is a reason many people choose to feel peaceful and happiness is felt only when people spend time in less crowded places. I feel that’s why people took a lot of effort and discovered hills stations and valleys. Money is another factor which comes to my mind when I think of peace.  These people proved me wrong.

For a guy who likes trains noise made by them doesn’t matter. If one is deep into music or arts he will never worry about the people around him as long as he is watching or performing, even on road with heavy traffic. Books pave way to a whole new world and book stores are the gateways. One will never be aware of situation around when selecting a new book. They are having their peace doing the work they like and their mind feels quieter being there. Kids yelling will be a soft melody if looking at their innocent faces is what you like. People in markets shouting at highest of their pitches will not bother you much if observing them is the sole reason you are there. A noisy office may be a head ache for people working there, but not for people who enjoy its products.

Often times I hear people mention that they had a good time going to pubs, restaurants and being happy in other places surrounded by walls and roofs. One would also end up spending a good amount of money being there. I don’t see any reason in spending a lot of money in the name of happiness for pricey drinks or costly dinners. Is happy feeling one gets there real ? or is it just a fancy to display people around ? On the other hand locking yourself away from the world is also not a way to calm heart. 

Breaking all myths about solitude, less crowded people and money these 7% people paved a new way for being happy, enjoying their happiness privately in public places.They have chosen their secret gateways of happiness right in middle of town and with people they live along . They are enjoying solitude being in presence of lot of people. Enclosed concrete walls may not fill your heart with joy when compared to large public fun houses outside.Everyone is supposed to have such a place which takes away all your sorrow. The place which speaks back to you, which reciprocates your thoughts and feelings. It can be only present outside your home . It is your Public Private Place. It is the beginning of realizing yourself.

 I see that whole point of living is being happy in a responsible way. A major part of having such feeling depends on the place you are at and work you do at that particular place and time. You cannot do that work, unless you are there and if you are not there that work cannot be done. They go hand in hand. It all depends on the way you look at task in hand.

A beautiful road in your town, a cafe where you hangout with your buddy, a park beside your home, a tree few blocks away or anything which stops you which holds for longer times. It may be right beside your house and you may not have realized your favourite place yet.Find your place, have your peace and be happy. After all that’s what life is about.

Mr.Immature

In my two years of life in a corporate and the conversations I had with people from other organizations I found too many men wasting their valuable time creating illusions about women with whom they work along. Though these kinds of men and such problems comprise of small section considering size of an organization, it is required to address the issue as too often these men end up wasting lot of useful time and their valuable thinking for an unimportant cause. Most of the time men end up in a confused state.

Women are misinterpreted by men mostly, especially in modern workplaces or in metro cities. In my observation I found out that women have priorities with whom they want to spend time. They stick with them and choose not to disturb others.  A few turn out to be playing around with feelings of others. This may be applicable to men also. There is another category of people whom I don’t consider to speak about today, the greedy men who are lusted in their every thought and women who actually choose to betray men. The rest constitutes of women whom I call as the sacred gender. They don’t belong to any of category mentioned above. They are aware of their actions. They are pretty clear about social behavior and are very much sensible. I couldn't stop writing this article after reading an archived conversation with one such sensible woman. Well, here comes the problem. These women choose to behave socially and professionally which is often wrongly interpreted by men.

This misinterpretation in immature men with different backgrounds is causing all the confusions. Most of them are from non co-ed schools and colleges, country side or might have been raised without any female presence in family with exception of mother. It will be little tough for them to get along in the new world they suddenly entered. Too often they feel it confused to get along in presence of sacred gender. Some of these men feel happy that the barriers are broken when some communication should be going on in the group with them. Some feel the freedom that they no longer need to do some senseless act for impressing sensible, the sacred gender. As such women themselves approach and start conversation with men, which is professional. Acquiring such unasked gifts these men are like excited kids who learn to start cycling without any support, but don’t know where brake is! They feel everything is alright but only in few seconds they will realize they cannot stop bicycle and could do so only by falling.

 Similarly here they start assuming themselves that sacred gender actually like them or like getting along with them. Things start getting complicated when some similarities exist in tastes between these men and women. These immature heroes again start assuming that luck favoured them and begin their illusions. Some go a step ahead and name this illusion with the four lettered word. This is the biggest problem in assuming. It takes a considerable amount of wasted time and a bunch of too deep emotions to realize that the sacred gender is actually behaving socially with these men. These men should come to reality in a very early stage and start behaving socially rather than being immature. It actually feels awkward at a stage or it hurts when sacred gender conveys that they are actually being social or professional. 

I feel that there is also influence of movies and western culture on these men. There may be some other ways of getting such influences but these two plays a major role. Though I love fiction and feel sad to criticize movies it should be accepted that movies will plant seeds of such illusions in minds of such immature men. Coming to imitation we choose to follow west in unnecessary things rather than learning useful things from them. Creating these illusions is one such useless learning from their teen movies and T V shows. Although in this present time in it is hard to restrain one from watching movies/shows from either sources it is best if one gets knowledge of behaving with women in offices and workplaces socially.

There is a golden rule said by my first ever manager in life -Never assume anything .He taught it to me in sense of work but I feel it extremely useful in various daily encounters and I wish these Mr. Immature’s can apply that to their attitude too .The enforcement of government laws and new regulations throughout country is slightly bringing a change of attitude and little fear in men but change will happen only when it comes truly from heart and not by enforcement.

- Sayi Rama Krishna.